Why do People get Remarried?

You would think that one marriage would be enough to put people off the institution, yet there are plenty of people who are prepared to give it another go and get remarried. When a marriage ends, there is often a lot of heartache and acrimony on both sides. Many people cannot envisage getting married again, in case another relationship ends in the same way. However, plenty of people who were dead set against getting married again do indeed get remarried. It may be that they are the romantic type and believe that they've finally found 'the one' or that their new partner is desperate to get married. Clearly, everyone has their own reasons for deciding to get remarried.

It is perhaps understandable why someone would want to get remarried if they married young and got a divorce because they had grown apart from their spouse or wanted something different from the relationship. Not all marriages end messily – some couples even remain friends – it's just that when you're young you're not always a hundred per cent sure of what you want from life or your beliefs and ideas change as you get older. You may not want to be alone, but you feel that you are no longer as strongly connected to your spouse. After a divorce, you may start dating again and find someone you're on the same wavelength with and so decide to get remarried.

Even if you had an unhappy divorce, you may meet someone you click with – someone you fall in love with and want to spend the rest of you life with. Your previous marriage may not have lasted a lifetime, but you want to believe that the second time around the marriage will last. Unfortunately, this is not always the case and some people do end up getting remarried several times. It is harder to understand why someone would want to get remarried several times, because you'd think they would have come to the realisation that marriage is not for them, but clearly they either don't really value marriage that much or else are hopeless romantics, desperate for each marriage to work out.

Not everyone who gets remarried does so because of divorce – sometimes a man or woman will choose to get remarried having experienced the loss of their first husband or wife. For some people, getting married is a religious experience; for others marriage offers practical and legal reassurances – if you get married you have certain rights that you wouldn't have if you just lived with your partner. Marriage is what you make of it – for some people it is the epitome of romance and love, whilst others view it purely as a legal contract. Obviously, when you get married you do so because you intend the relationship to last, and even when you end up getting divorced, a remarriage doesn't seem to change this attitude for most people.