The Disadvantages of Being Single

There may be plenty of reasons to enjoy being single, but not everyone is able to embrace the single lifestyle with enthusiasm. If you've just been dumped, having been in a relationship for a considerable period of time, it is hard to see the positive side of being single. Indeed, you simply end up focusing on all the disadvantages, which is easy to do when you have been forced to adapt to living on your own and you're feeling depressed and lonely.

You may be the kind of person who always needs someone there to reassure you and to make you feel good about yourself, which is hard to deal with when you’re single. When you're in a relationship at least you always have someone who cares for you and who you care about. You are able to ask them their opinion and it is the only one that actually matters; if your boyfriend or girlfriend thinks you look good then you think you look good. In most cases your other half knows when to be tactful and when to be blunt, so that you can trust what they have to say.

When you're single, however, you usually live on your own and have no one to ask whether or not you look attractive in the clothes you're wearing. Indeed, you have no one to make an effort for when it comes to your appearance so you may be tempted to let yourself go a bit, piling on the pounds and wearing scruffy clothes. If you're determined to find someone else quickly you may go in completely the opposite direction and lose a few pounds and put yourself out there so you can attract someone else.

The main disadvantage of being single is probably the loneliness that accompanies it and so it is understandable why you would want to get back into a relationship as soon as possible. Although seeing someone else may distract you from your loneliness and prevent you dwelling on the past, sometimes you need a break to get over the end of a relationship, especially if it is one you were in for a long time.

You may have convinced yourself that you need to be in a relationship to be happy, but you shouldn’t have to rely on the presence of someone else in your life to make you feel more complete as a person. Not everyone is cut out for the single life, though, and the dating scene can be tough, but it’s just something you have to get used to if you are ever going to meet someone else.